He says, “Need is like honesty. It takes practice. If you do not tell the truth about the everyday things, the day will come when you want to tell a truth and the words will be too big to leave your mouth. So too need. If you do not take the gift of these moments, the day will come when to ask for help would have saved your life — and you cannot.” His mother used to say, “Your strength is your weakness.” He has come to understand, “Your weakness is your strength.”